Summer Fun by Kim
I decided that Kevin needed to let me have the “reigns” every now and then and let me blog on our “family” website. Sometimes he leaves out the important details, but at least you know what’s going on with us.
Life with two children is going pretty swell. Jayden has not had much adjustment as he could care less if she is even here. He will touch her every now and then and tell us when she crying (like we can’t hear it.) He has a hard time sitting by her in fear that she might touch him. Family pictures will be quite interesting i’m sure.
Josie on the other hand is quite the girl. I was excited to have a girl, but not excited about the “high maintenance” she brings with her. She loves to sleep which we can’t complain, but when awake, she’s not as content. She wants to be held…..ALOT! So hopefully that stage goes out of her soon. Other than that, she’s great and we love her to death. She’s starting to smile which always makes ya happy.
I have been healing pretty good. I even played softball a couple of times. It felt pretty good in the beginning, but man, I soon realized how sore and out of shape I am! Hopefully I can get a little better before fall ball starts!
Life has been pretty good for Kevin and I. We have adjusted pretty well to have two children. It’s much easier the second time but it is more work. We have been busy with family and friends and spending time together, just the four of us. Our family is complete, that’s for sure. We have gotten to know alot of our neighbors this summer, which has been great. Since we don’t have alot of family or close friends in the area, it’s nice to know there are people we can count on.
That brings up something that Kevin and I have been bitter about for a while now. About a year ago, we went through a rough time with our so called “community” at church. We invested a year with a small group and shared our lives with them, to be judged, given the ”all or nothing” speech…you can’t do both softball and smallgroup, and kicked out in the end. It was apparently not supposed to go that way, but it did and here we are a year later and it still bothers us. I think it bothers us more because we have never gotten an apology or even any further communication with some members of the group. Maybe it’s not realized what was done. It’s funny to think that a “christian” group, a church group, would do such a thing. As a result, we haven’t returned to the church but a couple of times. We have been thinking about finding a new church, but starting over just doesn’t seem like much fun. It just goes to show that even though your best friends and family live miles away, at least you can still count on them when it’s needed most and they won’t turn their back on you. And with our neighborhood opening up more, it helps us realize that we can find awesome people to be with in Ankeny. I think I’m kind of venting here, but it’s something that has been botteled up for so long that needs to be said. Maybe I’ll feel better than.
On another note, Jayden is going to turn 2 here in a couple of weeks. We are pretty excited about it. Can’t believe he’s going to be 2 already!
Well, I better get back to the children. We would like to thank those of you that have supported us and helped us bring Josie into the world! It’s been a fun 7 weeks that’s for sure!
–Kim
August 9th, 2006 at 9:09 pm
No close friends in the neighborhood, huh?
August 10th, 2006 at 1:44 pm
Well that makes four of us that are still bothered by the events of a year ago. Joni and I are still haunted by it but really we don’t know what to do. I’ve tried to stay connected with Kevin with website stuff. But reality is that’s not moving as quickly as I had planned. You and Joni have I know made some contacts about garage saleing together.
I think what makes it innevitabley bitter is that even though we can get together it’s ackward because there was no resolve. It always feels like I am walking on egg shells. And I hate that as much as you. So I don’t know what to do… I could fake it and come over and be nice. But it would feel completely fake, which doesn’t interest me. What I would rather do is come over lay it all out there, talk about it and get some sort of resolve. Does that mean where going to be best friends? Probably not, does that mean we both can stop mulling over it. Hopefully. You where hurt, and I am sorry for that, I told Kevin that when it all went down. It wasn’t my intentions. There was a lot more feeling and considerations to the entire situation then what you have depicted.
Lastly “Christian” groups are of course going to skrew up and hurt you, it’s a result of real community and friendships. It not a Christian/ non Christian thing. It’s a human nature thing. From time to time moms piss us off, dad’s piss us off, friends piss us off and Christians piss us off, you know even God will tick you off. I never admitted to being perfect. I crap stuff up all the time. What makes Christians different, me being one of them, is that I recognize my faults/sins. With that said… I am sorry you where hurt. I wish things went differently. I wish I wasn’t so scared of uncomfortable situation that I would of dealt with this earlier with you guys. Instead I have avoided it by pulling away from you. I’ll speak for Joni and I and say where sorry. We blew this one.
-d-
P.S. on a much lighter note…
Jayden has got one of the cutest smiles I have ever seen. He looks like such a happy kid.
August 10th, 2006 at 1:51 pm
Sorry…one more thing that is on my heart. We love you guys and think about you a lot. More than you are aware. That’s why we reutinely check your blog, look at your pics and ask about you guys through mutual accouintances. It’s pretty stupid that I couldn’t suck it up and be real with you guys and have instead treated this whole situation like some sort of high school drama avoiding it and trying to wish it to go away. I’m lame.
-d-
August 18th, 2006 at 9:18 am
*broox adds another name to the list of “people who spell worse than minnis.”